It occurs to me...

[sleigh]

...that if the person you love doesn't already know and feel that, then giving him/her chocolate, flowers, and/or various heart-shaped accouterments isn't going to accomplish a great deal.

Comments

[http://users.livejournal.com/la_marquise_de_/]

Indeed. I guess it's more about the reaffirmation? Or just -- in our case -- the search for silly things to give each other.

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

Today's the day to tell people you like that you like them.

I like you!

K.

[sleigh.livejournal.com]

And I like you, as well. Quite a lot, actually. :-)

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

Demonstrations of love are often appreciated nonetheless.

B

[sleigh.livejournal.com]

Indeed. I just am contending that unless the love/affection is there in the first place, the symbols (the flowers, the candy, etc) have very little meaning.

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

Oh, I don't know. Surprise can be nice, too. (Or not nice, depending.) I think these things have meaning if they do, and don't if they don't.

B

[stakebait.livejournal.com]

Perhaps not... but one of the ways I know that people love me is because they not only perform, but enjoy performing the little rituals that express it on an ongoing basis, including getting me Valentines, and birthday presents, and Christmas or Hannukah presents. (And those are some of the ways that I show that I love my partners as well.)

If that was all they did, then yeah, I wouldn't think much of that relationship. But equally if they stopped doing it I would wonder what had gone wrong, if they were bored with me or with us, or if I had failed to express my appreciation of previous gifts, or what. Pretty much the same way I would worry if they stopped calling as often, or saying I love you, or wanting to have sex. Any one of those is not the be-all and end all, but they are all components of expressing affection, and I would miss any of them if they went away.